Husband’s Solution To A Boring Marriage

By pastorbillwalden

Most marriages will go through times that leave a husband feeling bored with his wife, or vice versa.   Even the best marriages can experience this.

Proverbs 27:20 Hell and Destruction are never full; So the eyes of man are never satisfied.

The eyes, the flesh, and the desires of man are never satisfied, or, in other words, the nature of man always wants continual gratification.  If a man is focused only on self gratification, he will grow bored with his wife, and begin to see only her problems, flaws, and weaknesses.  He will compare her to other women, thinking that he would be better off with someone else.  His heart will wander, his thoughts will wander, and his actions may follow.

The Christian man has a clear and high calling regarding his relationship with and responsibility to his wife.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her…

The Christian husband is called to understand the supreme example of husband-hood in the relationship between Jesus and His church.  Jesus is the example of how husbands are to pursue loving their wives.

If Jesus is the example of the perfect Husband, then that means that every Christian is Jesus’ bride, regardless of gender.  A Christian man needs to see himself first as the Bride of Christ before he can rightly see himself as the husband to his wife.

If Jesus is the perfect example of what the Husband does for his wife, then we need to consider all that Jesus does for His Bride, the Church.  Consider John 10:10 as it applies to Jesus and His Bride.

John 10:10 The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy. I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly.

Jesus came to give abundant life to His Church, His Bride.  That means super exceeding, beyond the norm, abounding, rich, full life.  Abundant life is living life to the full.  Not in the realm that the world suggests, with more possessions, more relationships, etc.  Jesus came to give us a spiritual life that brings abundance and richness to living.  Abundant Life is the exact opposite of boring life.  Jesus lived the Abundant Life, and He seeks to bring us into that Life.

So what are the applications for husbands who are feeling that they are stuck in a boring marriage?

If you are a Christian husband, are you living the Abundant Life, or even seeking it? Jesus said He came that you might have it. Abundant Living starts with you, and will never leave you bored.  Seek after it.  Do it with great determination and purpose.

If you are a Christian husband, and feel that you are in a boring marriage, don’t believe the lies of the world and Satan that suggest you ought to spice up your marriage with some drink or smoke, with some X rated films, or some flirting with another woman. That is what the Thief says. He comes to kill, steal, and destroy. How many marriages have actually gotten better and more godly through smoke, drink, pornography, flirting, gambling, etc?  None.  Zero.

If you are a Christian husband who feels your marriage is boring, how much are you seeking Jesus?  Jesus seeks to bring YOU Abundant Life, and you often don’t or haven’t gone along with His idea, but he has never given up on you.

Christian husband: it is your responsibility to seek the Abundant Life first for yourself, and then bring it to your wife. Maybe your wife is boring or bored because of years of you neglecting her.  The joy of living has been drained out of her by your selfishness.  Seek Abundant Life in Jesus, and then bring your wife along. Neither of you will be bored.

Be a godly man.  Draw close to God through His word, through prayer, through serving others.  Seek to bless your wife instead of complaining about how boring she is and finding fault with her.  If she is boring to you, it is because you have not spiritually led her to Abundant Life in Christ.

If your wife is boring to you, is very well may be a result of you not investing your life into her.  Husbands often make their wives into something other than what Jesus wants, and then they complain about it.

Christian husband: Man up.   Seek Jesus.  Walk in the Abundant Life, and take your wife with you. There is Abundant Marriage to be discovered and enjoyed.